No Advice Please
May. 23rd, 2019 10:23 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kendiefoxPerhaps the intended move is the wrong choice.
I haven't lived in the same city as J in 7 years, we have not shared a domicile in 8, and even when we did it was not great for anyone. And if this doesn't work out, I will be significantly worse off than before. I will be deeper into debt, I have no credit now, and will be far from family. They aren't the greatest at being there, but they've been there when I absolutely needed them to be.
When I treat her like a partner, I get a verbal shrug. When I ask for more communication I get monosyllables and non-answers. When I give voice to my desires it is like dust on the wind, a slight irritant that is easily forgotten. As I have been told by every single person I have ever attempted to be intimate with that I am too intense, I don't know how to approach this. I feel like I'm being rejected and I'm not even living with her.
I don't want to be her one-and-only, but I would like to feel like I have some importance in her life. Which is not the case right now.
I haven't lived in the same city as J in 7 years, we have not shared a domicile in 8, and even when we did it was not great for anyone. And if this doesn't work out, I will be significantly worse off than before. I will be deeper into debt, I have no credit now, and will be far from family. They aren't the greatest at being there, but they've been there when I absolutely needed them to be.
When I treat her like a partner, I get a verbal shrug. When I ask for more communication I get monosyllables and non-answers. When I give voice to my desires it is like dust on the wind, a slight irritant that is easily forgotten. As I have been told by every single person I have ever attempted to be intimate with that I am too intense, I don't know how to approach this. I feel like I'm being rejected and I'm not even living with her.
I don't want to be her one-and-only, but I would like to feel like I have some importance in her life. Which is not the case right now.
